Sure, I kind of stole the title from Rachel Hollis and her awesome book, but I’ve just gotta tell you something that’s been on my mind! I see this almost every time a picture is posted on Facebook or Instagram. You know, the usual apology for things you shouldn’t be noticing.
“Sorry for my crazy hair.”
“Sorry for the mom voice.”
“Don’t mind my pile of laundry behind me.”
I’ll be honest, these comments really bug me. I know we all have imperfections and things we don’t like about ourselves, but maybe we can stop making these comments that really don’t add any value to the picture or video. If anything, it shows that you’re insecure and don’t want people to judge you, even though you’re pointing out the things that you don’t want to be judged for. Phew, that was confusing. But you get it right?
When you apologize for certain imperfections in a picture or video, that’s all I can focus on. I honestly didn’t notice the things that are apologized for, but once the caption mentions them, that’s all I can focus on.
I really do just love seeing the cute pictures and videos! I’m focused on your cute baby smiling or laughing for the first time. I’m loving seeing your daughter say something adorable and you laughing about it! It makes me feel good that other moms don’t have a perfectly clean house like we all sometimes pretend we do.
What it comes down to is not bringing attention to things that don’t matter. Every one of us has days where we are in our sweats and no makeup and we shouldn’t have to apologize for it! It’s just part of being a good mom. The little things really don’t matter. And yes, I say that more for me because I need to remember that every day.
Maybe if we stopped apologizing, we would be able to enjoy those cute pictures and videos more. I posted a video a little while ago where I was singing and playing the piano. That was really scary and, at first, I wanted to say something like, “Sorry this isn’t that great,” but I didn’t want to apologize. I thought it was good enough to post and I did it without apologies. And you know what? I got excellent feedback and maybe I’ll start doing them more often.
I know it’s hard for all of us in today’s society because we are all comparing ourselves to the next mom who seems to have it all together. I guarantee you that she doesn’t. We all feel a little bit insecure when we post something on social media because we are worried that someone will say something rude, but there is way more good out there! And you can count on me to give you a like and a comment!
