Since I was a teenager scrolling through early Pinterest, I have seen a lot of blog posts, now memes, floating around about how it’s ok to want a simple life. Just a spouse, a home, kids, and a community. (And by all means, that is definitely ok! This is not a conversation about what is MORE ok.)
For so long, that was what I wanted. I knew I would be an amazing wife, mom, and homemaker! And then, just a few years later, I became a wife, and a mom, and (more or less) a homemaker. But, to my surprise, I still had dreams, goals and aspirations. Did I expect them to be completely fulfilled by having “the dream”?
For a while (and sometimes still to this day) I wondered if something was wrong with me. Maybe I’m discontent, ungrateful, or don’t take my role seriously. Maybe this means that I don’t love my kids enough or I’m a lazy homemaker or I’m entitled.
Have you ever felt that way? Have you ever been ashamed to admit that you have desires, dreams, and aspirations beyond motherhood?
I’m here now to say that your dreams, goals, and aspirations are valid.
I’m here to say that you are capable of pursuing them AND being an amazing mom and wife. I believe we CAN have it all (if we prioritize, communicate well with our husbands/partners, give ourselves freedom, and we outsource/delegate tasks to other people) (aka HELLO housecleaning service!).
When you pursue your dreams you make an impact on your family, your community, and even the world.
It does matter. And your children will see that!
It is possible to create your own family dynamic that might not look like the standard model…and that’s ok! (check out another post of mine, The Best Kind of Mom for more on this)
It’s ok to work or monetize a dream even if you don’t NEED to support your family financially and just because it will enhance your life and your community.
It’s ok to want more than the “simple life”.
Now go do your thing!
